I started smoking about 3 months ago, and at the time i fully intended to stop when i left treatment. However i got home and decided to continue long enough to finish my current pack. Then, i bought two more packs and decided i didn’t need to stop just yet.
Currently i don’t consider myself addicted to cigarettes; i can easily go without smoking them for days with no side affects.More than anything i’ve been smoking as a way to kill time or calm down when i have nothing else to turn to. And while i don’t consider myself to have an addiction yet, i know the behavior is very much a problem.
Self harm is really tricky for me and it’s something i’ve fallen very deeply in to; even “seemingly harmless” things have become behaviors for me. Recently it hit me that smoking is becoming one of those behaviors. A behavior in which i insist “this isn’t a problem, it’s fine” and “at least it isn’t cutting or hitting”.
I started smoking in treatment because i was trying to not self harm and i was desperate for a “valid” form of harm. The majority of the clients in treatment smoked, so it was pretty socially acceptable. No one thought another thing of it when i started.
It did give me an opportunity to get close to other clients i wouldn’t have normally spoken to since i had to smoke around them, but more than anything it satisfied a tiny voice in the back of my mind that demanded self harm at all times.
As i was outside smoking tonight it really hit me that i’m only doing this because i know it causes me harm in the long run. I find so much comfort in knowing that, which makes me scared shitless to consider quitting. I am able to “function” when smoking; i don’t self harm, i use coping skills, i spend time with my family.
But i only do so knowing that every night when i smoke i’m damaging my lungs; i’m raising my potential to develop serious health problems; i’m cutting my life span with every breath.
And that isn’t okay. It just isn’t. I am working so hard for a future. So hard to create a life worth living. I can’t keep wrecking my future and i really can’t keep feeding these self harm urges in a “socially acceptable” manner. I just can’t.
I would be lying if i said after all that i am ready to quit; like i said the idea of quitting scares me. It’s closely tied to my issues with self harm and that scares me. So for now, i’m going to make a few commitments: I will continue to actively analyze my relationship with smoking and why i do it, as well as email my therapist about all this. Those are two steps i can actively take tonight, so i will.