I don’t really feel a purpose for my life. I have nothing in mind that i wholeheartedly want to aspire to, and frankly very little desire to pursue my options. I figure this will change as i get better, at least that’s what i hope.
What i do know, though, is that there are plenty of things i don’t want for my life.
I flat out, 100%, do not want to be a person who is still living with their parents at 25/26. I have nothing against people who do, in fact for a lot of people that is what makes sense. I however do not have the best relationships with my parents, and the idea of living with them for longer than i have to is a struggle. I need my own space to make my own decisions.
I refuse to be a person who is still engaging in eating disorder behaviors. I don’t have an exact time limit for when i imagine it being over because frankly it’s not a choice and it’s unclear how long i’ll struggle with it. I don’t mean this to say one day i expect it to be gone completely because that’s unrealistic. I simply mean i don’t want to be engaging in the behaviors. I want to be in control enough that even when urges/thoughts pop up, i can push past them and make wise mind choices.
On that note, there is no way in hell i want to be a person engaging in self harm. Holy shit above all else i will not tolerate this. I’m on the path to recovery now and i intend to stay on it. I don’t want to spend my life overdosing, picking the shit out of my fingers, hitting, or cutting. I do not want a single one of those things in my future. I’ll be honest, it is hard to move past these things. There is a lot i miss regardless of how twisted that is. But my desire for recovery will always surpass my longing of how things used to be.
I do not want to be a person who constantly judges others, who refuses to help others because it might slightly inconvenience me, who refuses to help others when i easily can, who harbors anger over the past, who still shoves everything down instead of feeling, who hides away because that’s easier. I do not want to avoid my friends and family, or limit myself to wearing baggy clothes because i’m ashamed of my body. I do not want to be a smoker. I do not want to be a person who refuses to swim because of scars, i do not want to refuse to do the things i love.
Essentially, i do not want to be stuck. I do not want to be stuck in my mental health issues. I don’t want to live my life inside staring at the wall. I do not want to feel hopeless towards my future. I don’t want to be apathetic about how my life goes, i don’t want to be stuck in cycle after cycle falling down the same wholes. I do not want to be anyone or anything else but me, truly authentically me.
So what am i going to do knowing all of that? I’m going to eat something because i’m hungry. I’m going to brainstorm some short term goals for myself that help me move forward. I’m going to work on relearning my skills. I’m going to try to approach life with hope. I’m going to do what i can when i can so that i avoid being a person i don’t want to be.